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This quote by Rachel Jankovic summed up what God has taught me about mommyhood this year:
From a friend and mentor:
From an interview I read with Heather Platt, wife of super famous pastor David Platt on girltalk:
From a vlog made by a megachurch pastor. This killed me:
Chip is incredibly helpful but you know what? God didn't create him to be the helpmate. That's my role.
THIS IS THE WIFE I WANT TO BE: There are days when I leave here and I know that I'll be okay if I can just get home and get to Traci. I pray God will change me.
If you tell them the gospel, but live to
yourself, they will never believe it. Give your life for theirs every day,
joyfully. Lay down pettiness. Lay down fussiness. Lay down resentment about the
dishes, about the laundry, about how no one knows how hard you work.
Stop clinging to yourself and cling to the
cross. There is more joy and more life and more laughter on the other side of
death than you can possibly carry alone.
I
expected God to teach me alot about motherhood, as I’m pretty new at this, but
an unexpected lesson has been about wifehood. I’ve been married sixteen
years, and in the last few weeks I’ve come to the shocking realization that the
wife God wants me to be is not the wife I am. He’s used a couple
of different people to show me this. Here are some snippets:
From a friend and mentor:
Our job as a minister’s wife is to listen,
encourage, and support. It is not to say “well just go find
another job then".
There
are times when I have say this over and over to myself. Listen –
encourage – support, repeat.
From an interview I read with Heather Platt, wife of super famous pastor David Platt on girltalk:
As a wife in
ministry, your husband needs to know that you adore him and that you believe in
the way he is leading. Your words matter and so do your actions. Tell him
often how proud you are of him and show him by what you do that you mean it!
Be available. He needs your love, your words of affirmation, and most of all your unconditional support. Be there when he needs to talk, when he needs some TLC and even when he needs to simply veg out and do nothing! He wants to know that you will follow his lead, no matter what. Not easy as a wife, but absolutely essential. We are in a fight for our marriages and husbands, and our husbands are worth fighting for! God’s name and glory are worth it!
Be available. He needs your love, your words of affirmation, and most of all your unconditional support. Be there when he needs to talk, when he needs some TLC and even when he needs to simply veg out and do nothing! He wants to know that you will follow his lead, no matter what. Not easy as a wife, but absolutely essential. We are in a fight for our marriages and husbands, and our husbands are worth fighting for! God’s name and glory are worth it!
From a vlog made by a megachurch pastor. This killed me:
The biblical picture is the relationship that Eve has with Adam is that she is given to Adam as a helpmate. She is the thing that takes it from a good idea to a great idea. She is that catalyst that provides the synergy that spins the good idea into a spectacular reality...
[My wife] is my safe place. I can come to her and talk to her about anything that’s going on in my life… The problem is this job will wear you down if you don’t have a safe place to unload it and unpack it, without fear of criticism or judgment. There are days when I leave here and I know that I’ll be okay if I can just get home and get to to [my wife]. She loves me unconditionally, she puts up with my stupidity, she celebrates my quirkiness...
She is my biggest fan. One of the things I don’t think wives understand about husbands is that husbands always need somebody to show off for them. And they never get over that thing of little boys trying to get attention. A husband needs to be somebody’s hero. And he needs to have somebody believing in him, bragging on him. And you say “well I do that all the time”, yeah you probably do. But guys leak. And they leak badly. In the push and shove world that we live in there are people and things taking away from us as fast as you put them into us. And so you have to be consistent and do what you would think would be overkill that we would just start to think would be kinda what we need…
[My wife] is my safe place. I can come to her and talk to her about anything that’s going on in my life… The problem is this job will wear you down if you don’t have a safe place to unload it and unpack it, without fear of criticism or judgment. There are days when I leave here and I know that I’ll be okay if I can just get home and get to to [my wife]. She loves me unconditionally, she puts up with my stupidity, she celebrates my quirkiness...
She is my biggest fan. One of the things I don’t think wives understand about husbands is that husbands always need somebody to show off for them. And they never get over that thing of little boys trying to get attention. A husband needs to be somebody’s hero. And he needs to have somebody believing in him, bragging on him. And you say “well I do that all the time”, yeah you probably do. But guys leak. And they leak badly. In the push and shove world that we live in there are people and things taking away from us as fast as you put them into us. And so you have to be consistent and do what you would think would be overkill that we would just start to think would be kinda what we need…
She has
provided a lot of faith and energy that has allowed me to get to some successful
places because I would give up if it was just me, I would quit, I would say
well I can’t do it and sometimes I would hear her in the back of my head going
“yeah, you can do this, you need to try, go ahead. Worst thing is you come home to me”. And so I would try that last thing, and
I would put that last bit of effort into it and then that’s when the success
would come, it would be because of her.
Chip is incredibly helpful but you know what? God didn't create him to be the helpmate. That's my role.
THIS IS THE WIFE I WANT TO BE: There are days when I leave here and I know that I'll be okay if I can just get home and get to Traci. I pray God will change me.
A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more
than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to
regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all
her life long. Proverbs 31. That's the good wife.
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